Debunking Relationship Myths and Embracing Realities!

Welcome, fellow love enthusiasts and myth-busters! Today, we embark on a thrilling adventure to debunk the common misconceptions that surround the intricate world of relationships. Love is a complex and beautiful journey, and it's time to peel back the layers of myths and embrace the realities that shape our connections. So, fasten your seatbelts, open your heart, and let's debunk those relationship myths

1. Myth: True love is easy. "True love" is not always easy or comfortable even. I mean even in Disney fairytales love isn't easy. There are obstacles, issues, difficulties and that is absolutely normal. No feeling or relationship is easy. No friendship, romantic relationship, or even the relationship you have with yourself is ever always easy.
   

2. Myth: "If they wanted to they would." When people say this phrase they are saying that if your partner is really interested in you, they would do ANYTHING to get or keep you. That is simply not true, it is not as simple as that. Things get in the way. There are some many reasons why they may not allow them to meet your needs or expectations. I mean, of course, sometimes it is due to a lack of effort, but not always. They may not have the knowledge or emotional skills and availability to do what you're expecting of them. They also may not realize how important it is to you.
   

3. Myth: Arguments are a bad sign. "My partner and I argue frequently, our relationship is doomed" That is simply not true, arguing is healthy when handled correctly of course! There are so many misconceptions about arguing. Arguing does not mean yelling and arguing does not have to be cruel or hurtful. Arguing is important because it allows you to communicate frustrations and different point of views. When is arguing with my partner unhealthy? If you are constantly fighting with your partner and it is interfering with your daily life and your ability to connect with your partner, you might need to address the issue and even maybe get to some help.
   

4. Myth: Doubts mean that it's not right. If you are questioning your relationship, you are not alone. It is absolutely normal to doubt a bond with someone. How to combat my doubts? It is important to understand that no relation is perfect and exactly what you fantasized about. Talk about your doubts with your partner, little do you know they may be having the same doubts and anxieties.
   

5. Myth: Your partner should be able to fulfill all of your needs. That is a lot to ask from someone. It is so much pressure to put on someone. Your partner can't be everything. It is important to not put that kind of pressure on someone. Guess what babe, if you have the expectation that your partner can fulfill all of your needs and expectations, you are going to end up disappointed and hurt. We need to also be able to rely on ourselves to fulfill some of our needs, we can also find that in our friends, community, family, faith, etc.
   

6. Myth: Monogamy is the only sustainable relationship type. Monogamy is the default is this society and has been viewed as the purer, cleaner and "right" way of being in a relationship, but it isn't! Polyamory is a taboo in many cultures. Different people love differently and have different needs, it's not one size fits all. Monogamy being put on a pedestal causes polyamory to be misunderstood, shamed, and to some not tolerated or accepted. I have witnessed, first hand, many long term polyamorous relationship. Monogamy is not the only sustainable way of living.

7. Myth: Love conquers all. Ah, the myth that love is the magical potion that can solve all problems! While love is undoubtedly powerful, it's not a fix-all solution. Relationships require effort, compromise, and effective communication. Love is the foundation, but it's the commitment to growth and the willingness to work through challenges that truly build lasting connections. It's like realizing that love is the spark, but the fire requires stoking to keep it alive!

8. Myth: soulmates complete each other. The concept of finding a soulmate who completes you sounds romantic, but it can be misleading. Healthy relationships are not about finding someone to fill the void within us. Instead, they're about two whole individuals coming together to support and enhance each other's lives. It's like joining two puzzle pieces that beautifully complement one another, creating a larger, more intricate picture.

9. Myth: Happily ever after requires perfection. Thanks to fairy tales, we often expect perfection in our relationships. But the truth is, perfection is an illusion. Real relationships involve flaws, quirks, and imperfections. Embracing the messy, imperfect aspects of ourselves and our partners can lead to greater authenticity and acceptance. It's like realizing that love's beauty lies in the unique brushstrokes that make each relationship a one-of-a-kind masterpiece.

10. Myth: Love should always feel like a fairytale. While the honeymoon phase is undeniably blissful, relationships naturally evolve over time. The initial infatuation transforms into a deeper, more profound love. It's important to understand that love is not always a constant stream of butterflies and rainbows. It's a journey that includes ups and downs, growth, and the opportunity for shared adventures. It's like a rollercoaster ride – thrilling, occasionally bumpy, but ultimately exhilarating.

11. Myth: A great relationship means never being alone. Contrary to popular belief, a healthy relationship does not mean being together 24/7. It's vital to maintain individual identities, pursue personal passions, and have time for self-care. Healthy relationships thrive on a balance of togetherness and independence. It's like two trees intertwining their branches but remaining firmly rooted in their own unique growth.

Congratulations, fellow myth-busters, for unveiling the truth behind relationship myths! Love is a journey that requires effort, growth, and a sense of humor. By debunking these misconceptions, we can approach relationships with a more realistic and empowering perspective.

So, embrace the imperfections, communicate openly, and celebrate the unique bond you share with your partner(s). Remember, it's the willingness to grow together, navigate challenges, and embrace the realities of love that create lasting and fulfilling relationships.

Here's to debunking myths and embracing the beautiful, messy, and extraordinary adventure of love!

With love,

Aude.