Debunking Sex Myths and Unleashing Pleasure: The Naked Truth

There are so many myths about sex and unfortunately I can't write about them all but here are 10 myths about sex that I still regularly hear around me in 2022.

1. Myth: Everyone is having sex. Not everyone has sex and not everyone wants sex. Not everyone is having the same kind of sex and not everyone has the same sex drive. There is no right amount of sex to have.
   

2. Myth: Sex = penis + vagina. There are so many ways of having sex. Some ways of having sex are but are NOT LIMITED TO; sexual intercourse (PIV), anal intercourse, oral sex, manual stimulation (fingering, rubbing, hand job), masturbation (wether you're doing it alone or mutual masturbation), group sex and sexting can also be considered sex. Massaging, kissing, licking, sucking, pinching, biting, rubbing, sexy talking, erotic breathing are all ways of expressing sexual feeling.
   

3. Myth: Sex - orgasm = FAIL. Orgasm does not mean success and no orgasm does not mean lesser sex! It is absolutely normal to not be able to or even want to orgasm whenever you have sex. Let's deshamify not having orgasms. Having sex without pursuing climax can be really fun and relieve the pressure behind that expectation.
   

4. Myth: My partner should know what I want and like. We are not mind-readers! Being good lover does not mean being able to guess what your partner wants. A part of being a good lover is being a good communicator and listener.
   

5. Myth: STI's are dirty. When someone gets tests for STI's and the results come out negative, I've heard "I'm clean." I absolutely hate hearing that because it is insinuating that if you get a positive results you are "dirty" or "unclean" when in reality STI's are very common. It is estimated that 1 in 5 people in the U.S. have a sexually transmitted infection. According to the CDC sexually transmitted infections are very common, and more than half of people in the U.S. will have an STI in their lifetime.
   

6. Myth: I am less of a man if I can't last long. The average time for ejaculation was about 5min and 30sec after starting sex. That number is the average, meaning that there's lots of people that ejaculate before 5 and a half minutes as well as many that take longer. Not being able to hold off on ejaculation for as long as you or your partner wish you did does not, in fact, make you "less of a man."
   

7. Myth: Men only want sex, women only want love. A very common misconception. No, there is no real proof that "men think about sex every 7 seconds." Some people want sex, some don't, some want love, some don't regardless of gender.
   

8. Myth: If a man is turned on, he can get it up. Nope! First, let's get one thing clear, erection does not equal arousal. You have have an erection without being sexually aroused and be aroused without having an erection. Penis havers can regularly experience erection in non-sexual setting. Random erections are normal. A person with a penis can feel turned on, orgasm and even ejaculate without being hard.
   

9. Myth: My partner using a sex toy means I'm not satisfying them. Growing up, I've heard many times around me that sex toys are cheating and will ruin your sex life. Sex toys are not going to replace you. Think of your partner's sex toys as your tool box, with consent of course, you now have so many more options and ways to make your partner go wild. Sex toys are not for everyone but they can be fuuuuuuuuuun! You can use them by yourself or with assistance of a partner. There are some that are made for couples of all different sexualities! There is a wide variety of toys. Sex toys are not there to ruin your sex life, they may even give it an extra bit of spice. Now imagine being able to sext or talk dirty with your partner and being able to tell them what tool you want them to use on themselves for you. *GASP* ;)
   

10. Myth: You are either gay or straight. Sexuality is a very wide spectrum. Although it is being talked about more, there is still a binary thought process. Just like genders, there are so many different types of sexualities and gender identities. It's not new, it's not a trend. The different sexual orientations have been around since the beginning of times, all around the world, only we didn't always have the words to describe it and in some parts of the world is something still very stigmatized.

With love,

Aude.